Mony arrived yesterday, and well… clearly things are about to change. She has curtains… for me a running joke; I used to swear six-ways-from-Sunday “I will never be hanging curtains with anyone!” She has curtains.
Then… there’s the waking up to find her in bed! And… realize that she isn’t leaving.
And we haven’t had a full 24 hours yet!
I guess for anyone who cares enough about their relationships, these little things are important and it’s these little things that are often forgotten as a relationship goes on, these little changes in life that aren’t so bad… like my fear of lace doilies adorning the house, that still isn’t happening, but it’s those little touches that make for certain comforts.. .they are there to remind you that the person you’ve committed to is there.
Life starts now, at least for me… and that’s not a mere happy-go-lucky-in-love thing, for me it is an actual emotional, physical and mental feeling… waking up this morning I finally felt settled, really settled; not just in the house but in my life. It felt as if… the ocean of life was calm, the waves of the sea we not battering my boat in all directions.
These things can’t be forgotten, and I may forget them from time to time but we all have to appreciate that other person who affects our lives in positive ways, and there will be negative moments but we can’t dwell on those negative moments, we have to remember the positive, because if we truly love someone, if we truly want to spend the rest of our lives with that someone, we can’t dwell on the little things we find annoying, or get flustered over the changes we don’t want… there needs to be compromise, appreciation and a partnership.
Life starts now is not just when you feel all that positive that can come from a strong relationship, it’s not just that new feeling, it’s actually grabbing hold of that love and running with it, especially if it’s a good, solid, supportive partnership… for me Mony brings me the support and faith in me that I’ve always been missing… she makes that indestructible feeling I’ve always carried in my life an absolute self truth. The things in life I’ve accomplished on my own and at some point lost faith, she has helped me find again. Oh… there is so many little feelings that have either resurfaced, been found again or are new… but I think what has made me feel like life can start now is the fact that she has magnified the best in me a thousand fold.
Sure it’s not even the first 24 hours, first week or month, but that doesn’t mean I can’t start appreciating now…
If we all just appreciated 1 thing in our partner, that would evolve into a like-kind exchange, and then we’d appreciate two things, and so on and so on… and then the little fears, negative things, annoyances that sometimes fester and grow to hurt a relationship would be truly minuscule and the positive things would not be forgotten.
Do I like the idea of losing my favourite curtains? Not particularly, but then the positive side to that is ‘change is good’, life sometimes needs a refresher, and if you don’t try something new you’ll never know if you like it. Yes, I said I’d never hang curtains with anyone… but Mony isn’t anyone, she is someone… someone special and well worth making all the efforts in the world for…. and I appreciate her for being in my life and taking those same chances on me.
Walk away from my babbling today with one thing… find something in the one you love to appreciate. That’s all you need to do today.
I appreciate you Mony, you’re my best friend.
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