The countdown is on after two years of long distance, Mony is finally coming home to me.
When we found each other back in 2011… well you can read most of that history here on the blog, but we knew at some point life would have to bring us together. We went from a fiver year plan, to a one year dream to a three year idea to a two year plan. Truth is we knew somewhere in that 1 to 5 year time frame, we’d make it happen.
One day Mony wrote in my journal… 2 years.. or maybe it was her journal. Either way she wrote it down that she wanted that, and as circumstances would have it (or maybe it was Destiny playing her cards) that opportunity presented itself, and here we are: 2 years and 4 months later. Actually Mony will arrive 2 years, 4 months and 1 day after we found one another again.
You might say that moving in together is a big step, and you might be right, especially after dealing with life from long distance… but I say that long distance has done nothing but made itself a reminder to appreciate every moment together. I say long distance has taught us to find ways of working things out. I would go as far as to say that long distance gave us what we needed to get to know one another again and forced us to take steps that maybe all relationships need. Steps like finding ways to work out problems, finding ways to use our time wisely, finding interests that weren’t fleeting and finding out what it’s truly like to be without when the person you love is in your life.
I wonder if all those who have had long distance relationships really look back on the LDR period and learn from it… or do they just discard it and are happy to forget that hard time? Do they become like all other couples and fall into the trap of taking for granted? Will we? I hope not… as I wrote in today’s earlier post, this blog, the journals, the emails to Mony every day are a written record, a verbal photograph of our lives, and if there is one thing that having all these words around has taught me; It’s nice to be reminded of things in your own words.
Mony reads the emails I’ve sent over the last couple of years, and when she reads them to me I am reminded of things, thoughts, ideas… like the other night she read me an blog entry from the blog here in which I wrote a statement about not letting life control your love but letting love design (or create) your life. It reminded me to remember that I never want to fall into the trap of mediocrity, taking for granted, the same-old same-old. It reminded me why I endured 2 years of 3000 miles apart, why I slept countless nights for not more than 2 hours….. It reminded me that I will sometimes need to be reminded.
The countdown is on… not just a countdown to her finally coming home to my arms, but the countdown to the last days of long distance and the countdown to when this chapter of our lives is truly closed. It is the countdown to remembering to remember… the final entries in the long distance love affair log book.. it is the countdown to the start of a new chapter, one that will learn the lessons from the last two years and try to apply them to the next 50 years.
Keeping this record hasn’t been a task, in fact maybe if everyone wrote the loving thought, the angry thoughts, the learning moments, the deep feelings, maybe if everyone kept a journal in the nightstand and went back to reading it.. good times or bad, maybe their would be more happiness, more resolve, more of you finding your soulmate, your one true love… and maybe nothing would happen, but don’t we owe it to ourselves to try? Look at me and Mony, we’re living proof that we are worth the fight of trying and enduring to finally have the happiness we deserve.
Does your countdown to your happiness start soon? Maybe it should.
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