Can you truly say that about the person you’re with? Your wife, your husband, your lover, partner? Can you actually sit back and think about who is your best friend and name that person you’re doing the wild thing with? Have you really taken a minute to think about the spaces you put your friends in, we all do it… we have that really close friend who we confide everything in, then we have those friends who are not as close but certainly close enough to trust with a few intimate details of our lives, then there are those friends that are just there, the kind you’re always happy to see but never miss. But… have you ever really trusted your partner as much as you trust your best friend and confided in your partner the way you would your bestest of best buds?
I can tell him almost anything… but guess what? He doesn’t know anything compared to Mony, I confide in her my deepest secrets and my greatest joys. I smile from the heart when I see her and I have nothing to fear from her, she truly is my best friend and she supports me, doesn’t judge me and fills more than those best friend roles. In fact I used to think my oldest son was my best friend, but he’s growing up and making his own friends, my business partner doesn’t know as much as I thought he did and while neither my son or business partner would use my inner most secrets against me, they still pass opinionated judgment… Mony, well she doesn’t. She talks to me if she doesn’t like something I said or did… she is open and honest… she is advising, loving and best of all, she goes beyond listening and thinks about what I’ve told her.
While my business partner may do some of these things, he doesn’t do all of them, in fact while he is closest of all people in my life, he is still not as close as my Mony… and while I can trust him like a brother, I still can’t confide every detail of my life in him, but with Mony I can. We support one another, laugh together, cry together and while I know my business partner is nothing short of family, Mony is so much more, and that is the way I want a relationship to be… I want to not only be with the love of my life, but I want her to be my best friend, the person I can trust most and never fear what I’ve said being used against me… I want to tell her I have a dream, a goal, a desire, a wish and I know she is right there with me.. if not trying to help me get there, at least rooting me on without judgment and with more love than I probably have for myself.
So, can you say you’re lover, your spouse, your partner is truly your best friend? I believe I can, and for the first time in my life I trust someone far beyond the trust I have for anyone else… and far beyond what I thought I had. Mony is my best friend, so please allow me to introduce you:
Hi, I’d like you to meet my best friend, Mony… I’m going to marry her someday.
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